Jing Yidan retired for five years and used more time to record

Jing Yidan retired for five years and used more time to record
Jing Yidan and his mother once hosted several programs such as CCTV’s “Focus Interview” and “Moving China”, and accompanied several generations of viewers on the screen.In May 2015, she officially retired from CCTV. After that, Jing Yidan also experienced the reality that all middle-aged and elderly people must face: slowly growing old, parents have grown old, years of age directly “old, sick, dead”Push it to the front.  On April 27, 2019, Jing Yidan’s 90-year-old mother died of dialysis, and this day happened to be Jing Yidan’s 64th birthday.On April 27, 2020, on the first anniversary of his mother’s death, Jing Yidan’s new book “Moonlight Before Bed: Seeing off for Dear Mother” was officially published.She had a conversation with her mother by writing a book.”When my mother was there, I saw the sunset; when my mother was away, I saw the moonlight at a glance.”Mother Ji Ji is the year past her birthday, and Jing Yidan has always been in deep pain.The day of my mother’s death is also Jing Yidan’s 64th birthday.The birthday is always over. April 22 is her husband’s birthday. Jing Yidan decided to have two people together.Relatives and friends say that they will have a Lunar Birthday in the future. Some of these consolations are particularly inspiring to Jing Yidan-Li Xiaomeng said, “64 years ago, you were separated from your mother, and 64 years later, you were separated from your mother again.”  Slowly, Jing Yidan stopped tangling.April 27 also became a day full of life for her.  She said, just like this book, it wrote about “yesterday”, but it was written for “tomorrow”, “we face today and tomorrow, regardless of age,We will all meet the topic of life process, so in the face of time, life, and tomorrow, we better start thinking about life from now on.”The reason was written down because my mother likes to record in October 2017, Jing Yidan’s mother was diagnosed with cancer.Jing Yidan’s first reaction was not to tell her.Later, when my mother asked me, when the children felt that they had to face this matter head-on, Jing Yidan told the truth.At this time, Jing Yidan’s daughter recommended that she watch the movie “Don’t Tell Her”, “The story in the movie is very familiar.This practice is the tradition of generation after generation of Chinese families.But the concept of the younger generation is different.”Jing Yidan said that this kind of thing will vary from person to person,” it depends on people’s tolerance, character, illness, etc., and then decides when to tell the truth.”After her mother became ill, Jing Yidan accompanied her next to the hospital bed, which was the maximum transfer of her mother after working, and also the process of slowly saying goodbye to her mother.This period of time was accompanied by worries and sorrows by the bed, confusion and entanglement brought by the ups and downs of the illness, and at the same time left the last warmth of the mother and the children.  Jing Yidan’s mother is a person who loves to record and likes to keep and share. He used to record every journey of himself and his family with letters, words and images.She once recorded the actual situation of the family’s WeChat communication in words from December 6, 2012 to January 6, 2013.Jing Yidan was still puzzled by this.A few years later, when the huge amount of information on WeChat had already drowned out the original memory, she re-read this month’s WeChat group text records, and she felt how reliable the records in black and white were.So, when my mother said to her on the hospital bed: “You write this paragraph, I can’t write it.”She agreed.  However, Jing Yidan really started to write after her mother died, and the writing process was intermittent and could not be written several times.Sometimes when she looked up, there would be a trance, not knowing when and where she was, always looking back at the most painful time.  ”It’s painful to write, and it’s painful not to write, but I can’t fail my mother’s instructions to me. I have experienced such a special stage in life, and I have a lot of knowledge and feelings about life and death that should be recorded.My mother is a particularly tough woman. I can stick to my own because of the inheritance she gave me.”About her mother was my most loyal audience. When he was thirty, looking at his face no longer young in the mirror, Jing Yidan sighed: Well, I have wrinkles.Mother stood behind her and said, “Yi Dan, there is little beauty, there is always beauty.”Mother’s words make her appoint a moderator the most important thing is the internal temperament and practice.  Jing Yidan said that her mother is her most loyal audience. In addition to watching her daughter’s shows, she will also watch the shows of her daughter’s colleagues.Coming soon while watching the show, often in a word.After her mother became ill, as long as she had strength, she would still watch “Moving China” hosted by Jing Yidan.Because in front of the camera, there is less eye in front of the screen.”For a long time in the Air Force, Jing Yidan always felt that his mother was young, powerful, and a strong man.When her mother retired, Jing Yidan had almost no feeling, because her mother was rehired immediately, and continued to work for 7 years, so Jing Yidan has always been accustomed to the days when her mother went out in the morning and returned at night.In the last few years of her mother’s life, when she often reminded herself that she was “old,” Jing Yidan felt that her mother was already connected to the word “aged”.  Jing Yidan said that after he passed middle age, he more and more realized the influence of his mother on himself, and the angle of observing her mother has also changed. She will use her as a model to see how her mother gets old and how to live.  ”If I walked towards dusk step by step like my mother, it would be the perfect old age.”When Jing Yidan was 50 years old, her mother wrote to her: 50 years old, it is a good time-30 years old is too young, 70 years old is too old, 50 years old has rich experience and rich experience, and the gradual path will be smoother and wider.How did you grow up?How to grow old when you grow up?Mum would like to tell the children all life experiences.  ”It’s true that when I grow old, it’s after my mother leaves.”Jing Yidan said,” Mom is here, she is in the sunset.I see her, the background is the gorgeous sunset, the sun will not set so fast.Mom is gone, I am standing in the sunset.Here, I saw the night at a glance, saw the moonlight, and saw the end of life.”■ Talk to Sauna Yewang: Is the topic” dead “taboo in your home?Do grandchildren mention this topic?  Jing Yidan: We are a big family of four generations. After the death of my mother, I have a profound impact on everyone, including my sister ‘s granddaughter Wenwen, who is the youngest child in the family.The child understands death.Wenwen ‘s parents and dad did a very good job. They let the child behave to the people who passed away. The child ‘s heart was just sadness and sorrow, and he also knew about life and death.In many families, the word “death” is a taboo word, but can it be said to children?Especially children, they will have a faint fear of “death”.Was n’t this the same when we were young, and we thought about it later, what would happen if Mom and Dad were gone?We have a lot to miss in life lessons from childhood.So I think it is possible to talk about life and death with the child at the right time and in the right size.  Sauna Night Net: Now, when I think about my time with my mother, what’s the regret?  Jing Yidan: When my mother was not seriously ill, it would be better to accompany her more.Companionship is not a visit, but companionship is all morning and evening, in a variety of trivialities, let our loved ones feel that you are around.For loved ones in serious illnesses, especially those serious illnesses that have no cure, I feel that companionship is medicine, and it is an irreplaceable medicine.  Sauna Night Net: How do you arrange your retirement days and what do you do every day?  Jing Yidan: I have been retired for five years, and my life is very fast.There are some large-scale special programs that I continue to host, and there are some training seminars to host the business.In the past five years, I have written four books. After retirement, I used a lot of energy to record. Before working, I used a microphone and a lens to record, and the rest became a written record.I have also been in contact with my old colleagues. Sometimes I forget that I have retired. When I see them doing a program, I feel like I am in it.  Image courtesy of Liu Wei, chief reporter of Sauna Night.